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10 Confidence and Leadership Stage1

Welcome to this week’s message on leadership, self-confidence, and how to feel good about yourself everyday as you interact with people, in safety and comfort, at home and work.

Last week’s message was an item of Special Interest based on an often made request on building morale in the workplace.

If you wish to be reminded of that message, it is also available back on the message page.

In a previous message we looked at the Cycle of Confidence and Leadership as an overview.
This week’s message is a more detailed explanation of Stage 1 of the Cycle.

Look the Cycle over and you begin to see how it works.

Your spiritual dimension – that separates you from everyone else on the planet – gives you your individuality, your uniqueness; and yet, as a human being, it also gives you those traits that are shared by all other people.

Cycle for Confidence and Leadership

In future messages, you will be given in-depth understanding, and evidence of the background, on each of the other stages of the Cycle.

It is important to be comfortable with each of the stages separately so you have a better understanding of the entire Cycle.

This understanding will assist you to develop the skills that create great leaders.

The full definition of self-confidence is that it is ‘the mental attitude of having trust in, respect for, and reliance on, your own judgement’. It is defined by those three important principles.

And this week’s message is how to use those three principles of trust, respect and reliance, to provide certainty in many facets of your life. They are principles that determine confidence in any object, relationship, or even career choice if used for that purpose.

As an example, look at your car. Do you trust it to start on a cold morning? Do you respect the brand name? (Can you easily get parts as required?) Can you rely on it to travel safely from one major city to another without breakdown?

If the answer is YES to each of those questions, then you have confidence in your car.
If the answer is NO to any of those questions, you are probably considering a vehicle change!

Now look at relationships. Do you trust the persons you’re closest too, and can they trust you? Do the people closest to you always show you respect and do you always show respect for them? And can you always rely on those closest to you, and can they always rely on you?
That is actually a group of six questions, and you should take up to half a day to answer each of those questions if they reflect plans for long-term relationships.

If the answers are YES to all of those questions, then you can have full confidence in those relationships. If the answers are NO to any of those questions, it does not mean those relationships are lost. It does however mean those negative answers are the areas that need to be discussed with those you’re involved, or planning to be involved, in relationships with.

You must accept that while the answers to any of those questions remain at NO, you will never have full confidence in that area affecting your life, including relationships.

Practice the use of those three principles of trust, respect and reliance on some facet of your life to determine whether or not you have confidence in that area, and you will appreciate how the first Stage of the Cycle can affect your life and thoughts.

Please take the opportunity this week to think about the definition of self-confidence, and how you can use trust, respect and reliance, to provide certainty in many areas. That certainty goes a long way to ensure you have the opportunity to feel good about yourself everyday.
Certainty, from confidence, is a trait that will define you as a leader.

Please email me on how you have used the definition to give you confidence in some area of decision making you needed to be certain of. Your stories – even short comments – are of great value to inspire others, and I would like to take the opportunity to include your stories, or comments, in upcoming episodes of ‘Special Interest Items’. They will be included as they fit into the theme of the message for that week.

Do you know anyone you can help with leadership issues, or just feeling good about themselves? Forward this message to friends and work colleagues; print it out and place it on notice boards, and give copies to those without computer access. Printing out, and compiling each weekly message in a folder, is a good way to build a total knowledge of self-confidence and leadership. It will provide certainty in dealing with every aspect of your life.

Next week’s message is an explanation Part 2 of the first Critical Step to self-confidence and leadership. ‘The Recognition and Embracing of Your Own Uniqueness.’

It is a message that reinforces your value, and entitlement, to ongoing, continuous happiness. It will be followed over coming weeks by each of the other Four Critical Steps.

Until then, please continue to see yourself as a unique and remarkable person, who deserves to feel good about yourself every day.

Tony Richards.

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