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24 Confidence and Leadership Stage 3

Welcome to this week’s message on leadership, self-confidence, and how to feel good about yourself everyday as you interact with people, in safety and comfort, at home and work.

Last week’s message was an item of Special Interest about how to successfully discipline employees.

If you wish to be reminded of that message, it is also available back on the message page.

This week’s message is about the Cycle for Confidence and Leadership and how it impacts your life. It is the step that allows you to see that self-confidence, developed here, provides leadership skills that entitles, and allows, you to feel good about yourself every day.

Look the Cycle over and you begin to see how it works.
Your spiritual dimension – that separates you from everyone else on the planet – gives you your individuality, your uniqueness; and yet, as a human being, it also gives you those traits that are shared by all other people.

Cycle for Confidence and Leadership

In future messages, you will be given in-depth understanding, and evidence of the background, on each of the stages of the Cycle so you can see why you feel good about yourself, or why you feel less positive about life generally. You can develop the skills that create great leaders.
Today is an opportunity to understand Stage 3.

Being faithful to your conscience and character – determining right from wrong – provides for an enhanced self-image. Real leaders are always faithful to their conscience and character.
There are many times, during the life of each of us, when we may be confronted with an uncomfortable situation that requires a decision of strength on moral or ethical grounds.

As children we get tested by our peers who may want us to assist in the bullying of others. Our characters begin to form as we take a stand or submit. Who you play with, who you associate with, whom you invite to your birthday party, are all part of the testing process we went through as children. How we dealt with those unfair pressures often determines who we are today.

As a business example, suppose your boss asks for you to perform an act that you believe to be against your conscience. It may be an easy ‘NO’ because of your security of employment but suppose it isn’t easy? Suppose your boss suggests that your response will be a career decision.
What will you do? It may have otherwise been the perfect job.

Now suppose in a relationship you are put under the same type of pressure. Either you carry out a request that is contrary to your conscience, or risk the continuance of the relationship. In many instances, these are pressures that must be confronted every day by some people, and only those in that position know how difficult those days can be. As none of us are in a position to give advice, or criticism, of which decision you should take, I always fall back on the definition of confidence. You must have trust in, respect for and reliance on, your own judgement and/or abilities. That is what makes you always feel good about yourself. Now to the point of Stage 3.

If you always follow your conscience, no matter how difficult that sometimes seems, you will always feel good about yourself. Don’t make excuses, because in your heart, if you have breached the positive principles you were born with and had nurtured during your life, you will have eaten away a little at your own self-image. What others ask of you is a reflection of them. How you respond to those requests will always be a reflection of you.

You will already be aware from past experiences of your life, that when you remain faithful to your conscience and character and determine to do what is right, you always feel good about yourself. The other times when you have breached your conscience, and acted out of character, is when you have felt that knot in your stomach from your body making you pay for the mistake.

Please take the opportunity this week to think about any time in your life when you have stuck to the principles of your conscience and how good you felt for the deed. Can you remember how that action made you just a little stronger at the time, and how good you felt about yourself? That will go a long way to remind you of the value that you have the right, and responsibility, to place on the unique, incomparable person you are.

Please email me on how you have stuck by your conscience, in some area of decision-making, and how good you felt as a result of your action. Your stories – even short comments – are of great value to inspire others, and I would like to take the opportunity to include your stories, or comments, in upcoming episodes of ‘Special Interest Items’. They will be included as they fit into the theme of the message for that week.

Do you know anyone you can help with leadership issues, or just feeling good about themselves? Forward this message to friends and work colleagues; print it out and place it on notice boards, and give copies to those without computer access. Printing out, and compiling each weekly message in a folder, is a good way to build a total knowledge of self-confidence and leadership. It will provide certainty in dealing with every aspect of your life.

Next week’s message is an explanation of the first Critical Step to self-confidence and leadership. ‘The Recognition and Embracing of Your Own Uniqueness.’
It is a message that reinforces your value, and entitlement, to ongoing, continuous happiness. It will be followed over coming weeks by each of the other Four Critical Steps.

Until then, please continue to see yourself as a unique and remarkable person, who deserves to feel good about yourself every day.

Tony Richards.

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